Whether sexting, flirting, or even after just having had sex, they will express their surprise or disbelief that I would want them usually saying, ”muscle guys want muscle guys.” Many of these relationships whether for continued hookups or dating end up not going anywhere, and while I used to take it personally, I have to wonder if I’m just rubbing up against others’ insecurities. Especially in the early stages, it feels deflating and seems that I have to prove that I am attracted to them. They will often say, “I don’t get why someone like you is into me” or “don’t be disappointed because I don’t have a lot of muscle.” I try to assure them of my interest and let them know that I am pursuing them because I am attracted to them, but if I’m being honest, it’s a bit off-putting to hear these things. If I am on a date with someone who is not muscular, they tend to seem insecure.
Thanks to this, I have gone on dates with various men, but I have noticed an issue which tends to come up.
